He blamed me for it. We always joked about marriage, and he was cute, but I never felt attracted to him. Once I got home, I felt guilty because it wasn't how I imagined losing my virginity, and not something you get back. I had so many questions about how it would feel. But physically I thought it felt weird — like it didn't really feel all that great and I didn't feel tons of pleasure. Afterwards, I expected to feel more mature and more confident, but I really just felt the same as I always have. He was my good friend and I trusted him, so even though we didn't talk about it beforehand, it felt right and okay and was even pretty exciting.
There's less subconscious pressure, and you'll learn what feels good for you. If I walked into a room and we made eye contact he would immediately turn and walk out. I remember whispering that I was ready, and he asked me twice before we actually did it if I was sure. He was gentle and it was loving. I think I would have enjoyed it more if he had checked in with me to see if my needs were being met, which they weren't.
We had talked about it before and we got this cheap motel and we did it. I've grown so much more comfortable with sex, and I can thank my boyfriend for that for being kind and gentle. I was talking to the boy for awhile and he made me feel like it was the right thing to do. It felt like a huge slap in the face. So after a few months of dating, I planned a specific night for us where 'it' was going to happen.
I had waited to have sex because I wanted my first time to be with someone that cared about me and would be around to share not just the physical act, but the emotions that came with it as well. In response to press inquiries, attached is a stmt regarding our work on the R. To be honest it hurt like hell. That sending nude pictures via text or Facebook is the new flirting. Try to understand the pressures around teenage girls to have sex. The research from all around the world, the more parents talk about this topic, the more likely the children are to have safe sex, to put off sex until they are older and to have fewer sexual partners.
Afterward, I honestly felt closer to him emotionally and physically, and I could tell he did too. Thirty seconds after it was over, he got up, got dressed, and left. Sometimes it's smooth and romantic, and other times, it's kind of terrible. He had already had sex, but he was considerate and made me feel safe to call the shots for when I felt ready to do it together. But these lessons are a dangerous mix of misinformation and distorted images of sexuality, which is contributing to behaviour that can leave young women with deep psychological and physical scars. I wasn't ready at all and he was.
I'm happy that I had my first time with someone I love, so, in that aspect, losing my virginity was really great because of how much I love my boyfriend. I was glad that I didn't give in until I was really ready. There wasn't one specific moment when it happened. Also, after having sex with guys, I've realized that sex with girls is more my speed — more fun. After three weeks of him pressuring me to have sex, I finally felt ready. I had just started the Pill and I was really afraid of getting pregnant and 'ruining my life,' which was the message I'd received growing up. I had gone to see him a couple times and he said he didn't want to be my first.
I had met this guy online when I was younger and we had been talking for awhile. We broke up about five months later. These days, it is available for free to who anyone who wants it. My one regret in the entire experience is that I didn't tell him that I was a virgin. But now, I'm grateful because that experience probably saved my life.
Maybe just a little more mature. Unwanted sex — and that includes sex under pressure, or sex while drunk, or simply sexual activity or acts they regret — can leave scars. At the time, I was blinded by my love, so I chose to look past that. However, we were really good friends and I felt comfortable with him. My boyfriend at the time and I had been together for about eight months and things were getting serious, so we decided to do it. When we finally did have sex, it was when I was ready.